‘I Thought We Came for Therapy!’: Autobiography Sessions in Couple Work

Each family builds up its own culture which is partially invisible to each of its members, and so I invite my couple clients to write their own autobiography as part of a move towards self‐differentiation. By emphasising difference in this way, I hope to allow my clients to feel OK about their discomfort, if any, with my ethnicity. I include vignettes to illustrate the process and client response.