Ladies,we've been framed

If an individual is to act with proper demeanor and show proper deference, then it will be necessary for her] to have areas of self-determination. She] must have an expendable supply of the small indulgences which her] society employs in its idiom of regard-such as cigarettes to give, chairs to proffer, food to provide, and so forth. She] must have freedom of bodily movement so that it will be possible for her] to assume a stance that conveys appropriate respect for others and appropriate demeanor on her] own partErving Goffman, The Arrangement between the Sexes, Theory and Society 4, 3 (Fall 1977), pp. 301–331. I would like to acknowledge the helpful comments on earlier versions of this critique provided by Joan Roberts, Shepard Holdervy, Judith-Maris Hess Buechler, and Hans Buechler.