Letting Go: A Mother's View

Parents whose son or daughter has a mental handicap face a difficult decision about when is the right time to 'let go'. Many are highly ambivalent, torn between their own wish to keep their son or daughter with them and their concern that he or she might need to leave home in order to develop greater independence. Making the break raises fundamental questions about relationships within the family and family members' needs for one another. This article explores these questions through the use of an interview with one mother, whose son had left home two years earlier. Some comments on the issues raised are also provided, including some recommendations for local practice.