Forming relationships in Australia: Qualitative insights into a process important to human wellbeing |
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Authors: | Gordon A Carmichael Andrea Whittaker |
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Institution: | (1) The Asia Institute, University of Melbourne, Melbourne, Australia;(2) Centre for Epidemiology and Population Health, The Australian National University, 0200 Canberra, ACT, Australia |
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Abstract: | Drawing on in-depth interviews conducted during 2002–03 for the Australian Family Formation Decisions (AFFD) Project, this
paper probes the relationship formation experiences of 115 women, men and couples of family-forming age living in eastern
Australia. Contemporary relationship formation is characterized by a mixture of ambivalence and resignation to having limited
control over the process on the one hand (if it happens it happens), and urgency on the other, especially among women seeking
to fulfil maternal ambitions in their thirties after prioritizing other things earlier in their adult lives. For most the
process of partnering involves trial and error, with timing — finding someone whose expectations of a relationship match one's
own — posing a major challenge. It gives rise to a common phenomenon, the ‘too soon syndrome’, where relationships with many
positive attributes are abandoned because one party perceives the other as too keen to ‘settle down’, and/or himself or herself
as not ready to do so. The paper also examines impediments to partnering, including traditional ones like shyness; negative
trial-and-error experiences; the demands of study and career establishment; pursuit of agendas emphasizing travel and enjoyment;
sole parenthood; and parental marriage breakdown. A framework is provided by Beck's (1992) concept of reflexive modernization,
and his associated proposition that life has become highly individualized with an emphasis on creating do-it-yourself biographies. |
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Keywords: | family formation partnering relationship experiences too soon syndrome impediments to partnering lifestyles reflexive modernization |
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