Intimacy Is Sharing Hurt Feelings: A Comparison of Three Conflict Resolution Models |
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| Authors: | Joseph Frey III Judy Holley Luciano L'Abate |
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| Affiliation: | *Joseph Frey III is a PhD candidate in the Family Studies Program at Georgia State University.;**Judy Holley, MA, is a graduate of the Social Psychology Program at Georgia State University.;***Luciano L'Abate, PhD, is Professor of Psychology and Director of the Family Studies Program at Georgia State University, Atlanta, Georgia. |
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| Abstract: | To check on the validity of three different methods of dealing with anger, 1) calm, rational discussion, 2) "fair fighting," and 3) sharing of hurt and of fear of hurt, two different studies were performed. In the first study a video-taped procedure was presented to 36 undergraduates. Their preferences indicated no support for the hypothesis of sex differences in dealing with conflict and some support to differential preferences for each of three methods. In the second study, three structured programs directly derived from the three theoretical positions were administered at random to 11 couples. Their reactions suggested some support for the position that intimacy may be found in sharing of hurt feelings. Theoretical issues and directions for future research are considered. |
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